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The Universal Always Give You What You Need

11 July 2006

- Finally, I managed to put my mind in easy. Many weeks of anxiety finally gone. Weeks of counter and counter-counter warfare finally ends.

Well, it will be really painful to see your people worked behind your back, let alone your best buddy. Who cares now whether it was a plot or not. Only the people involved will know.

Universal always give u what you need. I learned this phase in the Knowing Course. I was in such a bad state but somehow, somewhere, the universal manage to find me and gave me the strength, courage and the people around me' support to push through the adversity.

Everything happens for a reason. You will always Reap what you Sow, be it the good or the bad, because the Universal does know.

Who moved my cheese???

A couple of weeks ago, I met a Real Estate Agency Boss for lunch. He told me that he just wanted to catch up with me and do sharing of the Property Market trend and etc. Of course I knew what was his intention – Recruitment, i.e. recruit me to join his team.

Our discussion also included Real Estate Agencies survival in the next 5 to 10 years. He bravely said that only 4 big agencies will go thought the next wave of consolidation. The list does not include the company I am currently in. What he really meant was that I should move to these agencies to continue my growth. To be exact, his company is expending and thus provides fantastic opportunities for team leaders to grow. He added that business is diversified and thus able to withstand any further dip in the resale market activities. Furthermore they are involved in Project Marketing (Direct Sales from Developer) which is a cheap and good training ground for Team leaders handling New Agents.

Truly, I am flattered by his invitation, for an agency boss to invite me for lunch and hinting that I good enough to be in their team. Over the last 4 years, I have received Top notch Leaders in my industry inviting me to be in their team, MC, EC, ML and now PL. However, till date I have chosen to stay in my current company.

I could not have achieved what I have now without the support and “special treatment” from my immediate boss, my company boss & the company deputy. I was promoted to a Group Director in half a year after I turned full time, and within 14 months I was promoted to Senior Group Director. Without my immediate boss unselfish nature, I will not be where I am today. So can I leave a company who has supported and pushed to where I possibly can be??? Does DW have the infrastructural support me to grow bigger??? Do I have the financial means to be a great leader??? I wish I can look into the crystal ball and answer all the questions in my mind. But since 2005, I just could not move up to the next plateau. Need to change my business model?? Need to change environment?? 

The 2 weeks break in Taiwan will be perfect for me to think thought the next few years plans and challenges. Until then, I will not have any answer for my questions.

UPSETS

On Friday, I realized someone close was not trueful and instantly felt a knife piercing thru my heart. I was really upset. I knew I shouldn’t be upset and yet I was.

All Upsets explored will actually lead to the Truth. Then what was the true?

Upsets Involved

1. Resistance to Change
2. Wrong Expectations
3. Unclear Intention
4. Perceived Pain.

My Upset was due to the wrong expectation. Time and time again, I told myself not to expect and yet I still falls into the trap of Expectations. Is time now to constantly remind myself not to fall into the same pit hole.

Responsiblity : Take Charge of Your Own Life

1.    I walk, down the street.      
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.      
      I fall in.      
      I am lost...      I am hopeless.
      It isn't my fault.
      It takes forever to find a way out.      

2.     I walk down the same street.      
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.      
      I pretend I don't see it.      
      I fall in again.      
      I can't believe I am in the same place.      
      But it isn't my fault.

3.     I walk down the same street.      
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.      
      I see it is there.      
      I still fall in; its a habit.      
      My eyes are open
      I know where I am.
      It is my fault.      
      I get out immediately.      

4.  I walk down the same street.      
      There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.      
     I walk around it.      

5.     I walk down another street.

What Went Wrong?

Never had I been so depressed and stressed since i joined DW in Aug 2001. Since Jan 2005 everything single thing i did seem going the different ways i want or need it to be.

From Family relationship, business partnerships, my own sales... you name it, i will have one way or not having problems with it.

I took a room in DW office in Feb 05 and that is why the problem started. I have believed in Feng Shui all my life but yet i still sit with my back facing the office door. Cant believe i could do such a stupid thing!! Be it my own sales or relationships with collegues/partner deteroriated.

The stress i get in Business eventually affected my mood and confidence and thus creating more problems at home. Everything sprialled downwards

Postive Thinking

This month i closed 5 deals so far. But all of them are shared with my partners, namely Alycia, Chris and Honey.  It seem i just could not close on my own anymore. Not Focus? Not Committed? I really dont know.

If i feel negatively, I need to share all my closings with my partners. However, if i were to feel postively, I thought, if without all these partners I may not even closed 1 single deal.

There is always two sides to how we think and we feel. It is really up to us which ways we prefer to look at the matters or issues.

As the saying goes, we cant change the world but we can change how we look at the World. Stay Postively. We just left with 4 months in this year to make the differences. Do our best... the rest is up to the creater up there.